I have difficulty staying in touch with people, or to make people stay in my life. Flowing through this decade I figured that, people who are meant to be stick through our lives no matter how many rocks the flow with them hits.
This post is another one in my gratitude series appreciating the existence of these few people I am glad to have come across. I bond with each of them differently, each plays an important part in the person I am today.
The Crazy Old Man
Last evening, as he stood at the podium, speak about the forty years’ journey of the Nature Club, his grin was remarkable. Post the launch of the book Living Nature, as I was waiting for my turn to get it signed by Sir, I noticed how he wasn’t satisfied. For his conversations with everyone around still was about so many more tasks to be done.
I have been cribbing in my journal and a few closed ones about how life is getting tougher each day. How I am feeling difficult to cope with things. I almost completely withdrew myself socially. I don’t talk to more than five people in a week apart from the ones I have to for work, which is again not more than ten.
But, this introvert old man has achieved another feat amidst managing I don’t know how many roles and responsibilities. I felt ashamed, I felt stupid for the way my brain was functioning for the past few days.
I came back home and wrote down stuff to be done and practical goals for the week which I have been avoiding for the past months under the name of time and other excuses. It is easy to lose track. It is equally easy to get back in lane thanks to the existence of this old human.
Could I be a better human without coming across this crazy professor five years ago? I don’t think so. I have a separate post where I have listed a few things among the zillion things I picked up from him. Read that here.
School Friend #1
It would have been easier to write their names but I am an awkward person, I don’t know if they read this post and get back to me how I will react. So this person exists in my life now for exactly a decade.
We met in school in the 9th grade back in 2010. From that day to this, we have had a roller coaster ride. I am still in disbelief that we are in touch. Like how? How did we manage to retain our unique bond amongst the madness we were going through?
No one can beat Sir’s contribution in my life and it was unfair to even add more people to a list where he exists but the point is the bond with this friend has given me the biggest life lesson – that time is the best healer.
We had the best bond during school days. But, after junior college, there came a time where we faced situations that crated a bump in our ride. I was convinced that would be the end of everything we ever shared, but it didn’t.
After a few years, like mature individuals, we got through it. We at present share the same unique bond we did back in the day. She reminds me to stay in touch with my creative side, our conversations are in general pushing in each other towards things we love to do.
Like the other people I stay in touch with in life, I don’t meet her as often I should. I don’t even chat as much. But, whenever we do, it is meaningful and how. I am a believer in time as a healer because of this ride I have had with her.
They say old friends are like mirrors, truly so, I am glad I am entering the new decade with her as a friend. It is a different kind of pleasure to have a human mirror in your life. It helps to show growth and pushes to be better.
School Friend #2
Not taking the name of this person either for a similar reason too. This boy has always existed in my life. Like not for a decade, but for as old as I am. We know each other since we both are alive. We have many shared childhood experiences.
Out of the many people I share childhood memories with. He is the only one I am taking into the next decade as a friend. And that’s exactly why our bond is special to me. I am still not sure what has made us share the bond we do, because we are poles apart as people.
I have always liked speaking to him purely for the reason that he has lived a screwed up life than mine. It made me have more faith in mine and keep going. Now, the reason hasn’t changed much, but I have more empathy and try to help than feel good about his misery.
I think we both have taken comfort in each other’s misery. We are weird that way. We have also tried our best to be there to care for the other and to help them sail through some big hurdle.
He is the easiest person I have ever bonded with. I literally speak anything and everything to him and so does he. He is the super opposite of what I am. I am an over thinker and he is easy going. He does sometimes think and has his panic moments, but more often than not he is in a world of complete bliss.
One, he is the sole reason I believe that I can try and have people in my life if I truly make efforts. Two, I like how his presence helps me breathe, keeps me cool, reassures in the positive side of life and reminds me of how not everything is in our hands.
In their own way, these people have taught me and remind me of important life lessons. I am grateful for their existence and even joyful about being able to have them part of the new decade alongside me as my strong support system.
@nisha_navgire on Insta to more about these beautiful people.