You can’t force anything on anyone. This might be a known fact to many, but I recently experienced the meaning of it. I am grateful for the people I crossed life paths with, as they have made me believe now, that nothing in the world can ever be truly forced.
The current outbreak of Corona Virus made governments all over the world to force certain hygiene rules on its citizens. There are few, but people exist who ran away or who got detected positive and went on public events. How much ever you try, nothing can be forced. The force within people can only move them to do something.
The virus expects certain hygiene rules. While working from home, it was tough to force these rules on dad. He has lived his life a certain way and he wouldn’t adhere to the basic norms expected. Both our forces created a fire in the house one evening.
As I reflected, I figured that he wasn’t wrong. He has lived a purely easy and simple life and definitely in more troublesome and difficult backgrounds. For him to believe that some hygiene rules unfollowed might get him sick was impossible. I cried post the realization and became quiet for the next two days.
Since the world around him suddenly tried to make him more aware, he paved. He follows the basic norm now. I don’t panic or react too much if he fails once. Sometimes, the force in us needs to calm down first before we convince the force in others to do something.
The department head in the office, tried to force a task on our team. It felt like a battle of two forces. She tried her best to make us do something while our team together tried to push that force away. In the end, perhaps because of the majority, we won. Such a victory was sour, not sweet.
The manager wished for our growth. We as a team already had enough on the plate and hence resisted more work. It is tough, but nothing good or bad can ever be forced. While reflecting on the incident it does feel like it would be better if we didn’t resist, but it is too late. As a team, we already fought back the force.
I think as a twenty-something, I have travel, work and writing feathers to my cap. But with regards to boys, I have been low key. Purely because of low self-esteem, I stayed away for the longest.
I did have one true connection and I had tried everything, to get that one connection with the love of my life right, years back. Today when I look at it, I only see the force in me trying to do it while the force in him was onto different things. We did have a connection, but perhaps, the forces in us wished for different things.
On the other hand, I feel, I am now with someone for years with whom it is easy. We took our time but not at any single second has either of us forced the other for anything. The comfort got built naturally. It was tough, we didn’t have it easy. It is relaxing now to be with someone where nothing seems like it is forced. Everything we do feels natural and simple.
Financial year-end made the weeks tougher and my mind more cluttered. I couldn’t even sit down to journal properly. I pushed myself, but couldn’t force the words out for a blog post. The whole ”be home during the virus” came at the right time for me. The fourth day into it, I have managed to de-clutter my mind and get a blog post out. Again, making me realize, only the force within can make us do something.
I’ll share my process of de-cluttering my mind in the coming posts.
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