How to overcome __?

I was on a quest this week, I had to know how people process. How does the brain of various people work in times of need? I read online and even discussed with few friends to understand how they overcome obstacles.

When I begin to read about these online, common suggestions that came across were How to overcome self-doubt, anxiety, and more. When conversing with people the answers were I had the toughest time to overcome a gap year, a career change decision, fight with a best friend and more.

I have compiled a few things to try if ever you find yourself trying to overcome something. Whatever your __ be, that you are struggling with, I hope you are able to use either of the following.

Gain confidence

When one is facing a crisis, I believe the biggest loss is of confidence. Can I ever overcome this? Will this ever end? And more such questions pop in the head at the time of crisis. And the proven best way to build blocks of confidence is to work consciously do self-care.

Eating right and exercising are prime to-dos of self-care of the physical you. But, it is more important to take these seriously and put these things in your routine. Nothing will ever give results without continuous honest efforts.

Another aspect that gives confidence is when a person feels more knowledgeable. It is tough for non-readers to inculcate this one. Yet, one can try to read smaller articles on topics you love. Nurturing the knowledge seed leads to the budding of confidence.

Excess of anything is harmful

A difficult time makes the rational side of my brain weak. We tend to make decisions that we wouldn’t otherwise. We indulge in what gives us momentary pleasures more often. This is the foundation of maximum addictions that people have. It is important to be conscious of these actions.

To explain this one, I would give my example. Now that this pandemic crisis has chopped my travel wings, I have my many indoor things to do like the blog, journaling among others. However, indulging in these I still wasn’t able to get away from the morbid thoughts this pandemic gave.

So unknowingly I begin to worship my work. I clocked in more than nine hours a day past week without anyone demanding that much of me. It took me a while to understand this, but thanks to regular journaling I figured. I faced my consequences for doing so but better late than never, I began to give it a hard stop after my expected hours.

Being Grateful

One thing that has worked best for me is to remind myself of the things I am blessed with. There are so many things we take for granted, we only realize the worth of later. Each time one stupid thing gets me down, or one situation is up that makes life uneasy, I go to these many things I have written down like a list that I am blessed with and should be grateful for.

It doesn’t matter if you have a list, you may or may not want to write them all down either. But look around you, check your friend list, look at all the gadgets you own, the fancy trek shoes or any other things you possess, max part of humanity doesn’t have that kind of luxury. When the brain is churned to feel grateful for what exists, it helps to deal with the problem in hand better.

Time

Of course, the best healer is time. More often than not, whatever you fill your __ with as the title of this post, the answer would be time. You might do the above to give the situation time, or just carry on with your regular routine and let time work its magic. Either way, some situations get better only after a while. These are the ones you usually like the situations you laugh at later once you have lived it.

I hope this post gave you some food for thought. Hope you come back to it when you wish to overcome your __. @nishanavgire on Insta to discuss anything further.