I and Felicia met after months and went out for a good lunch this Saturday. We ate at ‘145 Bandra’. The beautiful ambience, tasty food, kind service of the place was blessed with our hearty conversation.
My past few weeks hadn’t been hunky dory and she knew it. As my nature is, I hadn’t spoken about any of it in detail with her or anyone. She had a clue of something wrong, but it was her time to find out.
She asked and I shared. I blabbered my past few weeks, shared the typical low days and the typical great ones. Gave a gist of everything that was happening. She shared her stories too. We both had our stomachs full and mind emptied as we left 145 Bandra.
‘At the end, it all boils down to what you wish to focus on…’ she said
‘Exactly! It is our choice to choose to focus on the positive or the negative’ I completed
The above being the crux of our talk. How we both have time and again managed to focus on the positive amidst everything negative that we face. Dwelling in my childhood can explain clearly why I am able to focus on the good so easily today.
The set of parents I got was a perfect match of one positive and one negative. I am the outcome of these two forces. Luckily I have imbibed in me more of the positives from my mother than the negativity of my father. From a very young change, I got used to differentiating between good and bad vibes and to focus only on the good.
Felicia has always been a master at picking up vibes. She left her last job because the vibe of the people wasn’t right. At her current workplace, she feels it all right and is happy doing her work. My workplace vibes are a balance of good and bad too. And as always, my focus will always be on the good.
However, my recent turmoil included how I gave in to all the negativity. It is so easy to say that, be positive. It is so fucking hard to do it. I was caught in the middle of so many bad happenings two Saturdays before. I was weeping like a baby. I couldn’t gather myself. I cried my entire way back home and dozed off weeping. With a lot of difficulty, I buried the negativity in my sleep that night and didn’t let it affect my days after.
Next morning in my journal I reminded myself of all the positive things, of all my recent achievements, of how life has been kind and that I shouldn’t take it for granted and let something stupid or even big effect the flow of good things happening to me. I even promised myself that morning to work towards improving my health.
I spoke about that night in detail to Felicia. She also shared a story of how she dealt with a negative wave and crossed it with utmost grace. We both are so, we might not call each when at our lowest, but after the devil is dealt with, we speak about it to each other to get it out of our systems.
One important thing we both keep in mind is to not become bitter. Many times, we crib, we cry over the spoiled beans and that affects everything else. In spite of all that we both go through, apart from each other and our closed ones, our low vibe doesn’t reach anyone. It is a difficult conscious effort to stay kind and not get bitter come what way.
You will always be bombarded with good and bad both. Life is not meant to be a cakewalk, it isn’t a film to end on a happy note. It is a journey of experiencing everything. I hope, on your road of life, you focus and remian positive and happy till the end.
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