For a while, I have been trying to find out why is it so difficult for me to work well with my colleagues. Each task I am asked to do alone, I am excelling, each dependent task, I have been ruining it. Why?
The answer to this why is finally clear to me. My brain made a new theory for me to understand why. I have tried to explain this new result of my overthinking as follows.
I love what I work as now. I love each aspect of my work. I am truly hoping to do well, learn, excel and grow. I appreciate my role in the organization and have completely accepted my work. And so, I have been excelling in all my individual work tasks.
However, I haven’t been able to do so with my colleagues. I appreciate all team members, but I haven’t been able to accept them all. As a result of which I have screwed many of the team tasks.
This was my answer to the – why. I figured this while I was overthinking a week ago on this issue. I penned my feelings down and found out that it is high time I accept my team. I began my week with this thought and the results of my team tasks got better.
I experimented this theory only for a week, but the results look ravishing. I agree I haven’t accepted each member, a one hundred per cent yet, but the start of trying to accept has also been helpful to have improved the quality of my work.
While I decided to pen my new theory in my blog today, I noticed that this theory has been at work in my life for a while. A few weeks ago, I met strangers and now am totally accepted in their family. How?
I had been to Bibi Ka Maqbara on my trip to Aurangabad. It surprisingly rained when I reached the monument. I was enjoying the rain, I approached a family enjoying the rain too and we together had some monsoon fun.
Later, over chai, we shared out interests. I said I work, travel and write. They were thrilled to know so and asked for me to share what I write. That week I shared with them my blog, which had a detailed description of the monsoon fun at the Maqbara.
Each family member read the post. They replied on the blog, they texted me that they loved it. They even called to say that, they would wish to stay connected, read more of what I write, and be in touch as a family member.
Strangers I met, appreciated my monsoon madness, appreciated that I write, liked what I wrote that week and completely accepted me. Either of us doesn’t know each other completely but there is total acceptance of the parts we do. A little appreciation and complete acceptance led to me having a new familial bond with strangers I met.
However, to end this theory which isn’t proven by any experts, I would like to say that it can work only if you appreciate yourself and have completely accepted what you are.
I completely love what I do at work and hence am now trying to accept all my co-workers. I and the family I met appreciated each other’s love for monsoon, need to behave madly in the rains, which became the core of a new bond of acceptance we share.
I am not sure if theory will be helpful to you, but if you are trying hard to find a solution to something in this context, this theory can be worth a try.