Living my last 9 weeks at my first job with a series of 9 posts that shall try to embrace every aspect learned from this job. Words mean more when stories are attached to it and in every sense I have learned the meaning of these 9 words. Read through the series and hopefully there is something in store for you too
Patience
Second word that I learned the meaning of is Patience. This word wasn’t new to me, though my job renewed its existence in my dictionary.
In the fast paced life I don’t have to wait for anything. From learning something new to reaching out to a family member abroad, everything is right there in no time.
Patience knocked my door when I was at my job explaining something to a colleague. We both share the same backgrounds and had many things in common but she wasn’t still getting a word of what I was trying to put forward, nor was she listening to me. I used the internet but to no avail.
In that moment I realized that patience exists because people do, no two people can have same level of understanding and adapting things and so patience is the key for co-existence. This is exactly why there is so much intolerance about a zillion things these days.
‘You are so thin, I think you should eat more bananas,’ Aunty 1 in train.
‘You are short as well, I think eggs is also good,’ Aunty 2 in train.
Before I respond with a fake smile they are having a discussion about what I should and shouldn’t eat. This time I knocked out patience from my mental home when they said the next thing.
‘I think your mother doesn’t care much and hence you look like this’ both echoed
I lost it, completely. I am sure they will remember each and every beautiful word I uttered for the next few minutes and some peaceful silence followed. These aunties never talk to me now and I couldn’t be gladder.
Over the years of my train travel I have faced many such aunties and now I hardly react to anyone. I realized not everything should be given a reaction. When an office colleague targeted me on a similar topic, I didn’t react, everyone else in the room asked him to stop apart from me. Sometimes it is easier to let go than reacting.
Patience caught my hand as I found how indecisive my boss is. I have written many things twice, the same exact thing twice because at first it didn’t make sense to her and later it magically did. And so many ways I can’t jot down our start up suffered because my boss couldn’t take decisions on time.
I figured that patience is not about gulping in what you feel. It is about talking your emotions to yourself before you blurt it out. Now when I know that there is an important decision to be taken by my boss, I take all possible good and bad consequences of the decision and it helps. Since there are all possibilities in front of her, her decision becomes clearer. But this couldn’t be possible if I didn’t have patience by my side.
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Not continuing this series on purpose. Tried hard to, sorry for disappointing.
Hopefully I make up to you with rest of my articles. Thank You.